There are many ways to get stuck in the past and let it ruin our present and future.
The bond between humans and their past sometimes seems like an inevitable one, and many of us live lives by repeating scenarios that happened somewhere along the way. A lot of us waste our life by waiting for our life to being.
We say to ourselves things like : I’ll truly be living my life when : ¨I move to….Get a job at…Get married with…Have children…Get a better job at…Get fit….Stop smoking ….When someone truly loves me…..When this…. or that….. “
One simple way to begin our life NOW is let go of the fantasy of waiting for a joyful future and accept that our life is already happening in the present moment. Letting go of that “perfect future” fantasy will enable us to take FULL RESPONSIBILITY for our life, so we can do what needs to be done in order to live more happily and healthily. Waiting and hoping for a better future without working for it is useless.
Do you remember what Thomas Jefferson once said : ” I find that the harder I work the more luck I seem to have ? “
This blog post isn’t about “scourging you” into working harder, it is about supporting you to understand that you are the creator of your own destiny and life experience. You might think- how is it that I am creating my own life ? “I wake up in the morning cause I have to be at work, to do stuff I need to do, so I can pay my rent and bills. Sometimes I have a chance to do something for myself, and when I do, I feel guilty cause I didn’t spend much time with my spouse and kids lately.”
If that is the story of your life you are creating your life to be a powerless victim of circumstances. You have given away your personal power and choose to hide, lay low and hope you will not “rock any boats” by existing.
You have choose to FOCUS on the LIMITATIONS and mere survival in life and that’s why it sounds so strange to hear that you are in charge of your own life. If you accept that you are a creator of your life experience than a next logical question arises – why the fuck did I create a life like this for myself ?
We create a shitty life for ourselves because me simply don’t know better. We are dealing with a lot of neglect, insanity and trauma that was passed on to us from our previous generations or our early childhood. We just ,subconsciously, act out on that legacy.
The best and the most effective way to break through that toxic pattern of living life like a victim is to SWITCH OUR FOCUS. To consciously switch our mind from being attached to LIMITATION and send it directly to GRATITUDE at all times.
That’s is the most powerful way to open your mind and heart and expand your life enriching it with options, opportunities and feelings of joy. If you are grateful you CA NOT BE A VICTIM and if you are not a victim you can be FREE TO BUILD A LIFE THAT WORKS FOR YOU.
I suggest the following ways to enrich your life with gratitude every day:
- GRATITUDE DIARY
Get a notebook of your liking and as a part of your morning routine ( I sure hope you have one) list 5-10 simple “things” you are grateful for in that moment. It can be literally anything from “grateful to be able to breathe air” to “grateful to so Sonja for publishing this blog post” 😀
Keep this practice consistent and truly give it a chance. Do this every day and, over time, you will see how your mood ,focus and life is changing for the better.
2. GRATITUDE ATTITUDE
Many titans of self-development including Lewis Howes, suggest that “If you concentrate on what you have, you’ll always have more. If you concentrate on what you don’t have, you’ll never have enough.”
Gratitude attitude simply means that we create our life by generation reasons to be grateful and expressing that gratitude daily.
- Tell whoever you are with right now (significant other, friend, family member, etc.) the 3 things that you are most grateful for in this moment
- Acknowledge yourself for what you have done and accomplished in the last day/week/month/year. Instead of comparing yourself to others, give yourself credit for the big and small things you have been doing!
- Acknowledge other people and thank them for inspiring/helping/supporting you – oftentimes people wait their whole lives to be acknowledged (and yet it happens far too infrequently)!
3.GRATITUDE BEFORE GOING TO SLEEP
I am doing this with my husband, on and off, for a full year now. If you want to know more about how this works visit his blog post “The Power of Gratitude” and read all about it.
Ready to be grateful ?
If you like extra support in getting started let me know and I’ll send you a complementary “Guide to Gratefulness”.